I felt an urge lately to roll out some fundamental principles and advice I feel would help a whole lot out there who are intending to go into relationships and who are already in relationships. Knowledge is key to freedom in life and reason people suffer in relationships is because they lack basic knowledge about how to make it enjoyable and successful. Below are some points I would like you to note;
- NEVER YOU ASSUME FOR ANY MAN AS A WOMAN OR VICE-VERSA
Most often this is very peculiar to ladies. A guy approaches you and the next thing you do is to assume you are in a relationship already because he is all loving. That’s very wrong to do; a man will ultimately take advantage of that and once he gets what he wants he cuts you off completely. Then you run back here for advice. Let 2017 be different
- ALWAYS DEFINE YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Also I am directing this to the ladies. Most often than not when a man approaches you and doesn’t say anything but instead shows you love, you tend to keep quiet. That’s very dangerous cos in his own mind, he hasn’t told you anything, so he won’t feel bad if anything goes wrong; you know what I mean. ASK HIM WHAT HE WANTS and he must be clear about it. If he sounds unserious, be bold enough to cut him off
- NEVER ACT DESPERATE EVEN IF YOU ARE
Unfortunately, some ladies unconsciously act desperate and they are not aware. Try to be conscious of your every move. There is a tendency he won’t take you serious and would do what he normally wouldn’t want to do before.
- SEX IS NOT THE KEY
98% of problems in relationships have one thing or the other to do with Sex; Trust Me. Naturally when a man truly loves you, there is a urge to just have a taste of you. That’s where his love can be tested and it is a litmus test which most guys fail. If he truly loves you, he will definitely wait without going to get it out there. Love is Patient. Also why would you want to give in when you know it hurts your maker
- GIVING IS A FUNCTION OF LOVE
You can’t say you are in LOVE and not GIVE. Yes, it is very true you can give and not love but it is impossible to Love without Giving; at this point, check that love he/she has been professing if he/she ain’t giving no matter how little depending on your capacity.
- YOU AINT SEEN NOTHING YET
Whatever you see in a relationship, you will definitely get in multiple fold in marriage from the same person most often than not. In a relationship there is always a tendency to suppress/conceal certain traits but in marriage we tend to relax and open up, hence unveiling our real self. If you get abused in a relationship, just know that’s just a tip of the iceberg; so RUN.
- SEEK PEACE
Truth is, you are not a spirit, and hence, you don’t know exactly the intent of the heart of whosoever you are dating or wanting to date. Then how are you even sure he is the right person with a good intention? GOD knows the heart of man and He is a ‘revealer’ of secrets. If you have a relationship with God, you experience an unfathomable Peace within if you are with the right person and if not, you feel troubled. So endeavour to have a relationship with God and He will surely help you.
Tell yourself ENOUGH IS ENOUGH in 2017. You can’t continue to do the same thing and over and over again and expect a different result, that’s insanity. If you need to get out of that thing you call a relationship, Please I encourage you to. Truth is that keeping a relationship into marriage takes work; if you ain’t ready to work, then you ain’t ready for a real relationship. I encourage to you to read My Personal Love Story and more stories on this blog so you can be inspired.
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